Forgiveness

Many times there is willfulness around the topic of "forgiveness.” People sometimes view this as "for others" when, in fact, forgiveness is the greatest gift we can give ourselves.

When we think about the need for forgiveness, consider the emotional charge, or energy, that is in your body. Some things may go on in your head like, "I am not forgiving her because she doesn't deserve it" or "I will forgive him when…"

Consider instead, forgiveness as an invisible thread between you and the other person. They do not need to know you are engaging in this process. This is for you. When we forgive, fully forgive, our energy shifts. This shift helps us show up in the world more authentically and naturally.

Think of a safe place to practice mindfulness/meditation. Make a routine daily to go to this place. In my own practice, I let this be my yoga mat. I always feel safe there so practicing forgiveness for myself in this place is easy.

I lay on my mat and welcome the feelings of anger, sadness and hurt. Then I say, "I forgive everyone who contributed to my feelings of anger, sadness and hurt. I forgive you. I release these feelings."

Then I say, "I forgive…for contributing to my feelings of anger, sadness and hurt. I forgive you. I release these feelings.”

Then I say to myself, “I am in control of how I perceive my world and the world around me. I no longer need to feel angry, hurt or sad. May all the anger, hurt and sadness leave me."

I forgive myself for holding on to these feelings. I choose to let go now. I release the feelings.

One of my favorite poems is The Guest House by Rumi. It’s a good reminder that we need to treat people well, even if that isn’t being reciprocated back to us. We can do the same with our emotions.